Let's Age Awesomely Together

Even with a parent with dementia, we have at least 80% control over our destiny. 



That's what we do here.

We take charge of our destiny.

  • How will we navigate this dementia journey with our parent so we feel good about ourselves after they're gone?
  • What lifestyle changes will we make to optimize our own health?
  • How will we create a fulfilling and regret-free second-half of our lives?

You Have the Power To Create Your Destiny

You have a parent with dementia.

And perhaps, like me, you've found out you have a genetic predisposition increasing the chances you'll get Alzheimer's Disease. 

That's a lot to take in.

It's hard enough to navigate the dementia path with parent and all that THAT brings up. But it's kinda mean to make us deal with this while also going through menopause and coming to terms with our own midlife transitions. And confronting our own mortality as we age.

But here we are.

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Here's what I think...

...no freakin' way am I going to let the 20% of my genetics and family history shape my future - I'm committed to doing whatever it takes to take control over my destiny - inner work, healing my past, lifestyle changes. Bring it on.

AND

...I don't think we should be going through this alone. So, let's not.

I know you - you're a "do it all" woman. Your mom or dad gets the diagnosis of some form of dementia and your natural response is to spring into action. Am I right?

...then you think about it a little more. 

You are a "do it all" woman, but you have your own full life, likely, your own family. There's no way you're going to be inviting your parent to live with you or to go live with them. 

But you certainly want to help and be there for your parent(s).

So, you settle into your own way of navigating this disease with your family. 

For me, I became the "Advocate."

I did all the research, informed my family of anything I learned, and prepared people for what to expect - I was the one bringing up all of the difficult conversations. And, I flew back to spend time with my mom and dad as much as possible. As an example, even though I lived across the country, I was the one who did all of the research on memory care facilities and helped my dad decide on which one was best for her. And I was the one advocating for the aides to stop forcing her to eat when she was saying no - reminding people to honor my mother's wishes for her end-of-life process.

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How about you? 

The way I see it, there are some key things to be thinking about.

  • Are you equipped with the right information so you can be most helpful to your parent, in a way that doesn't require you to sacrifice your own life, health and happiness?
  • Are you open to using the disease as a chance to heal and strengthen your relationship with your parent before they’re too far gone? (Here's a great place to start!)
  • How do you prioritize your own self-care and manage your own stress?
  • Have you considered future-proofing your own brain (and overall) health?
  • Are you open to your parent's dementia being the catalyst for an awakening in you?
  • Do you have the right support in place to help you to further your own emotional and spiritual well-being? Ensuring that you're not alone when things come up from your past? As you explore what living intentionally and regret-free would look like for you? And as you evaluate what your you want your life and relationships to look like as you age?

Let's make sure you're able to navigate this precious time with your parent, and the rest of your life, with more joy and less fear. More connection and less isolation. And feeling more "in the know" and less "in the dark."

You want that too?

Then join us in our Age Awesomely Facebook Community with other daughters of parents with dementia grappling with how dementia impacts their relationships, their lives, their futures and their own brains.

Together, we'll take charge of our destiny.

"I felt that the best I could do for my father, and the best I could do for myself, and my mother and my family was to stay open to the experience, and learn whatever I could at every step of the way as it was going on.

~ Patti Davis

 

Hi! I'm Deb, Founder of Age Awesomely

Like you, I’m a daughter of a parent with dementia. My mom was a dementia warrior for about 15 years until she died in May of 2021. In that same year, I turned 51 and officially became post-menopausal. Only a few months later, I learned that I was in the 2% minority of people who have two Apoe4 alleles, which means I have a much higher risk of getting late onset Alzheimers.

Not gonna lie, I’m still processing all of this.

I'm also a mom of 2 young men and have been married for 20 years. I live in the San Francisco Bay Area. I truly love being a mom and also love having my own business.

For the past decade, I’ve coached women around self-acceptance, stress management, conscious relating and living a fulfilling life. These days I call myself a Longevity and Life Fulfillment Coach. I’m a Certified Holistic Health Coach from the Institute of Integrative Nutrition, a Certified Brain Longevity Coach and natural strategist and problem solver. While I'm not a trauma therapist, I believe it's very important for coaches to be trauma-informed. Over the past 15 years, I've been committed to my own trauma healing and I've also studied trauma healing under Dr. Gabor Mate, Irene Lyon and Thomas Hübl.

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I’d been immersed in my own emotional healing while on the journey with my mom as she navigated her battle with dementia and now I’m on my own journey to prevent cognitive decline and disease and optimize my own brain health.

Truth is, I had no idea that we have so much control over our brain health and cognitive destiny.

Now I’m bringing my deep experience around self-acceptance, stress management and cultivating well-being to women like you, daughters of dementia, who need someone to advocate for you as you walk the path of dementia with your mom or dad. 

And to those who are interested in optimizing their own brain health, healing from their pasts and living a long, vibrant and healthy life.

Here’s what I believe:

  • Having a parent with dementia doesn't have to be a depressing and awful path - we can find a way to navigate it with hope, healing, presence, love and joy
  • The double edged sword about dementia is that it's a long slow death - on the one hand, it can be a painful thing to watch and experience, on the other hand, we have a chance to heal our relationship, come to peace and find closure
  • You have a choice - you can allow having a parent with dementia open you up and soften you or let the stress and discomfort close you down and harden you. (I work with the ones who want it to open and soften them)
  • Having a parent with AD/dementia sucks, but it can be the catalyst to live fully, get healthy and come into alignment with your true self.

I’ve chosen to work with

  • women (because ⅔ of people with Alzheimer’s Disease are women),
  • daughters (because I think it’s a unique situation to be a daughter and to watch your parent go through this) and
  • those who are not primary caregivers but want to do everything they can to be a strong advocate for their parent, to heal and grow personally, and to strengthening their relationship with their parent as they come to the end of their life.
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Fun Facts About Deb

  • I have always prided myself on being an omnivore - I love sugar and meat, pizza and peanut butter, junk food and healthy food. But...over the past year, I lost 25 lbs and decided to move toward a whole food plant-based diet (WFPB) and I'm about 85% there. Sugar is still a challenge for me.
  • I live in Northern California and spend a lot of time out on the trails with my sons, husband and friends - hiking, mountain biking and exploring nature. 
  • I believe in taking radical responsibility for our own happiness, because only then can we become truly selfless. AND I also still struggle with this ;) 
  • I love lifting weights and hate cardio / aerobic workouts. 
  • I dream of a future where we can teach our children to love every part of themselves, so we can ease their paths, and so they can take charge of their own healing — and by doing so, heal the world.

The Values I Hold Sacred

  • Openness to learn from others, and helping others to be open and curious about themselves.
  • Relationships where I do whatever I can to keep removing the barriers to loving and receiving love.
  • Deep respect for emotion, introspection and intuition, and helping others to find the freedom to feel and act.
  • Taking full responsibility for my life — because when you do, it’s like climbing above the cloud cover, where the air is clear and possibilities are endless. 
  • Radical acceptance of ourselves, and therefore, of life as it is.
  • Family and the importance of prioritizing consciously parenting our children.
  • Humor, playfulness and embracing our own unique version of weird.
  • Viewpoint diversity and the pursuit of truth.
  • Emotional healing and that we do not have to be forever imprisoned by our past.
  • That literally everything is happening for me - for my own growth and for the evolution of my soul, even if I don't like it in the moment.
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Let's make sure you're able to navigate this precious time with your parent, and the rest of your life, with more joy and less fear. More connection and less isolation. And feeling more "in the know" and less "in the dark."

You want that too?

Then join us in our Age Awesomely Facebook Community with other daughters of parents with dementia grappling with how dementia impacts their relationships, their lives, their futures and their own brains.

Together, let's take charge of our destiny.

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