Are You The Daughter of a Parent With Dementia and Want to Have the Tools To Navigate Their Behavior with Calm and Ease So You Can Cut the Frustration and Get Back to Connecting?

* Especially perfect for you if you're not the primary caregiver and are more like their advocate 

Research shows that an inability to relate to each other and engaging in troublesome communication are the two main problems for children of parents with dementia (Patcharee, 2021).

You've probably looked all over the internet and read a bunch of articles, but you're here because something's missing or still isn't working. It's so frustrating.

Which is why I'm going to give you something that will show you a different way of looking at things.  

You're not a bad daughter. This is hard.

It's ok to ask for help to navigate this changing relationship. This is new to both of you (even if your parent has had dementia for a while) and you can't get better at relating unless you learn more about what your parent needs.

In the "Relating to Your Parent With Dementia" Guide, you'll get...

  • A better understanding about dementia and how it impacts the brain
  • The 3 ways your parent may deny that there's anything wrong
  • The 4 most important things to avoid doing to make it easier for your parent and for you
  • The 4 E's to make relating to a parent with dementia more smooth
  • A key mindset shift that will help you go through this hard transition
  • Important information about why it's so hard for us to be patient
  • A worksheet for you to think more about your relationship
  • A printable reminder sheet to you can refer to before you're getting on a call or visiting!

As you know, time with your loved one is fleeting and precious. Don't wait to improve your relationship.

I promise this will be time well-spent. I'm here for you. Just reach out if you still have questions!

Why should you trust me? I've been there myself...

Hi! I'm Deb!

Like you, I’m a daughter of a parent with dementia. My mom was a dementia warrior for about 15 years until she died in May of 2021.

Here’s what I believe:

  • Having a parent with dementia doesn't have to be a depressing and awful path - we can find a way to navigate it with hope, healing, presence, love and joy.
  • The double edged sword about dementia is that it's a long slow death - on the one hand, it can be a painful thing to watch and experience, on the other hand, we have a chance to heal our relationship, come to peace and find closure.
  • You have a choice - you can allow having a parent with dementia open you up and soften you or let the stress and discomfort close you down and harden you. (I work with the ones who want it to open and soften them)
  • Having a parent with AD/dementia sucks, but it can be the catalyst to live fully, get healthy and come into alignment with your true self.

I know this journey and I feel you...

Now go grab the guide that I know will help!

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This is best for daughters who are

  • Their parent's best advocate but aren't their primary caregiver
  • Always interested in learning and doing better
  • Willing to practice new skills even if it's hard
  • Open to seeing things from a different perspective

It's not a great fit for daughters who are

  • Not that interested in learning anything new
  • Think they have this whole thing under control
  • Won't practice new skills that they will learn
  • Thinking that their parent's agitation is just to be expected and there's nothing that can be done about it

What You've Always Done No Longer Works.

The way you've always connected with your parent doesn't work like it used to. You're not sure how to talk to them anymore. Or you end up impatient and frustrated with their behavior, then feel bad that you got snarky or were mean.

While you know you can't have your parent as you knew them "BD" (Before Dementia), you still want to have good experiences with them before they're too far gone to remember you.

You're doing the best you can to connect with them as they are now, but it's not easy and something you're doing still isn't working. Sometimes you stop by for a visit or talk to them on Facetime and end up feeling overwhelmed, impatient and like it's an impossible situation!

32You are SO not alone. 

You shouldn't have to feel bad or guilty because you don't know how to relate to your parent anymore.

Or be surprised by their behavior.

And you don't have to lose them for good.

You can learn to relate in new ways.

Research shows us that empathy creates a more harmonious environment and enhances your resilience (McCrae, 2020).